December 20, 2017

Ask for what you want.

That’s the mantra of many self-help books and mainstream American culture. Get clear on what you want, what you value, and manifest it. There are many tools of manifestation ranging from SMART goals, vision boards, and deep invocation with prayer, dance, and sage. There’s nothing wrong with asking for what you want. In fact,...

October 27, 2017

I got really annoyed when my therapist said, “you don’t live in your body.”

“What do you mean?” I quipped, “I rock climb, do yoga, meditate, follow my breath, I’m aware of my body.”


“Exactly,” she replied, “you’re aware of your body but you don’t live in or from your body.”

That was many years ago. Now I know what she meant. I was aware of sensa...

July 25, 2017

Is your mind stuck running on an inner hamster wheel that you can’t get off of? Perhaps you wake up at night obsessing: “am I in the right job? is this really my calling?” Or you question your relationship: “what if she’s not right for me? what if I’m settling?” Perhaps you focus on bad things happening: “what if my loved one gets hurt in some way...

May 7, 2017

Fear is often experienced as a formidable foe.

In Buddhist psychology, there's an understanding that much of our orientation toward life is driven by desire and aversion which is accompanied by various shades of fear (e.g., worry, anxiety, panic). We grasp after things we want, fearful of losing a positive experience, and we push away or avoid thi...

April 10, 2017

Not all edges are alike. 

In my experience, there are the hard edges — impenetrable, brick walls — that resist our efforts to climb over, around, or through and leave us scraped and bloodied and crumpled in a heap. 

And then there are the amorphous edges — bottomless wells — that swallow and drown us with the lack of orienting ground. We ma...

March 22, 2017

Many clients come to therapy complaining that they’re stuck. For example, they can’t make decisions, they can’t get themselves to act in ways they want, nothing brings them satisfaction, or they can’t let go and relax. Why is this happening?

According to some researchers, human experience and behavior flow in a natural cyclical rhythm called an...

February 21, 2017

The unbidden visitor may come anytime, but late night after tasks are done and the house is quiet seems to be her favorite. Whether due to relaxation or exhaustion, habits of mental chatter and physical bracing that normally keep the unacceptable parts of ourselves at bay relax. We let down our guard.

And so she arrives.

Her costumes are infinite...

January 21, 2017

Most of us move through life with an inner tension held deep in our core. Have you noticed this? Unconsciously we’re on the alert for signs of physical and psychological danger. We like to know who we are, what’s happening next, and what’s expected of us. Our inner tension is a way to keep a grip on ourselves and our lives. We want to feel a sense...

January 2, 2017

I had a rare break in my work schedule a few days ago. I sauntered into the office of my colleague and asked how she was doing. She replied with exacerbation and impatience “I’m great, I’m just so busy.” With a knowing nod and somewhat defeated tone I responded, “I get it, me too.”

Are you too busy? Probably the number one complaint I get from clien...

December 14, 2016

You have a triune brain.

Triune means “three in one.” While oversimplified, this model posits that we have a reptilian brain (responsible for survival functions of the body), a mammalian brain (concerned with emotions), and a neocortex (concerned with thinking). These three areas of the brain are designed to function in an integrated, cohesive manne...

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About this blog

Welcome! You'll find a mix of writings here about cultivating an embodied life. Some posts are educational topics I teach in therapy. Others reflect on awareness, compassion and radical intimacy with the present moment as helpful dispositions in navigating life.

My intention, no matter what the subject, is to support your unique unfolding toward greater wholeness, creativity, and aliveness. As Howard Thurman says, '“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

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