October 27, 2017

I got really annoyed when my therapist said, “you don’t live in your body.”

“What do you mean?” I quipped, “I rock climb, do yoga, meditate, follow my breath, I’m aware of my body.”


“Exactly,” she replied, “you’re aware of your body but you don’t live in or from your body.”

That was many years ago. Now I know what she meant. I was aware of sensa...

March 22, 2017

Many clients come to therapy complaining that they’re stuck. For example, they can’t make decisions, they can’t get themselves to act in ways they want, nothing brings them satisfaction, or they can’t let go and relax. Why is this happening?

According to some researchers, human experience and behavior flow in a natural cyclical rhythm called an...

January 21, 2017

Most of us move through life with an inner tension held deep in our core. Have you noticed this? Unconsciously we’re on the alert for signs of physical and psychological danger. We like to know who we are, what’s happening next, and what’s expected of us. Our inner tension is a way to keep a grip on ourselves and our lives. We want to feel a sense...

January 2, 2017

I had a rare break in my work schedule a few days ago. I sauntered into the office of my colleague and asked how she was doing. She replied with exacerbation and impatience “I’m great, I’m just so busy.” With a knowing nod and somewhat defeated tone I responded, “I get it, me too.”

Are you too busy? Probably the number one complaint I get from clien...

December 14, 2016

You have a triune brain.

Triune means “three in one.” While oversimplified, this model posits that we have a reptilian brain (responsible for survival functions of the body), a mammalian brain (concerned with emotions), and a neocortex (concerned with thinking). These three areas of the brain are designed to function in an integrated, cohesive manne...

October 4, 2016

One of the kindest gifts we can offer ourselves throughout the day is the gift of a sacred a pause. The invitation is to interrupt our habitual ways of thinking and feeling and make contact with awareness, a state that David Rome calls grounded aware presence.

The following exercise only takes a few minutes and can be done any time, any where....

September 3, 2016

Do you ever feel shaky, hypervigilant, panicked? Do you shut down, go numb, feel empty?

If yes, your nervous system is hard at work protecting you!

One of the most important skills I teach clients in psychotherapy is to track their Window of Tolerance (see picture). This principle from Sensorimotor Psychotherapy refers to the level of activation...

August 4, 2016

What's the difference between clients who do well in therapy and those who don't? According to Eugene Gendlin, successful therapy clients listen to their bodies.

Specifically, Gendlin's research found that successful therapy clients reference their bodies in the moment as they talk about their problems. These clients say things like, “I have...

July 19, 2016

Every moment of every day we’re confronted with an infinite array of stimuli to pay attention to — sights, sounds, objects, people, the running commentary in our heads, how we feel, the aches and pains in our bodies. 

How do we decide what to attend to? 

This is no small question, for the answer determines the quality of this moment. It determines th...

July 3, 2016

We all have an inner knowing -- an innate wisdom and deep intelligence -- that's available to us when we slow down and listen closely to ourselves. This isn’t the knowing we get from our repetitive thoughts or reactive feelings. This is flesh and bone knowing. It's connected to our bodies and speaks our truth. This is listening, per St. Benedict, t...

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About this blog

Welcome! You'll find a mix of writings here about cultivating an embodied life. Some posts are educational topics I teach in therapy. Others reflect on awareness, compassion and radical intimacy with the present moment as helpful dispositions in navigating life.

My intention, no matter what the subject, is to support your unique unfolding toward greater wholeness, creativity, and aliveness. As Howard Thurman says, '“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

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